
Your Parenting On Purpose Toolbox
This is where I share weekly tools and strategies to help support you both as a parent, and in living your best life — so you can be an example of what's possible for your kids.
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Have you ever been in a situation where you know your child is lying? Â
Maybe you got a call from the school or you checked the online portal to find out your child is missing a number of homework assignments, but then you ask your child and they insist they did their homework.
Or you have a child that hits a sibling or took something they shouldn’t have, and they insist they didn’t — but you know that they did.
Then w...
Should I be concerned about my child’s lying?  After one of my recent in-person workshops, a Dad approached me to ask for some advice about lying. He was concerned because his kindergartner had gotten caught in quite a few lies recently, and he wasn’t sure if he should be concerned about it or what he should do.
I started our conversation by reassuring him that it was completely normal for children to lie, and not to be o...
Are you raising a “difficult” or an “easy” child? As parents, we tend to put our kids into one bucket or another based on how easy or difficult they are for us to parent. If they listen well, are flexible, and go with the flow, then we label them as “easy”. But if they are more opinionated about what they want and don’t bend easily to how others think they should be acting, then we can label them as “difficult”. Â
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As parents, we all take pride when other people tell us that our children are great kids… and that they are so well behaved. It makes us feel good, and we tend to make that mean that we’ve done a good job as a parent.
But what about when they “misbehave”? Especially if you are out in public with an unruly child, do you worry about what other people might think? Do you see your child’s behavior as a reflection of your...
As a parent, when your kids are whining, fighting, or not listening — do you find yourself ending up irritated, frustrated, or even angry? Let’s face it, our kids can be very frustrating at times, and they can bring out the worst in us.
Unfortunately, the more annoyed and frustrated we get at our kids, the less effective we become as a parent. When I ask parents how they respond when they’re frustrated, here is what mos...
Kids are faced with all sorts of different challenges at school and can come home with a multitude of different emotions and moods at the end of the day. When it's a good day, we are so happy to celebrate with them. But when kids have a bad day at school and are struggling through challenges, what do you do as a parent? Is your first instinct to try to help solve it or fix their feelings so they can feel better?
If th...
Do you have a child that is an angel at school but turns into a hot mess as soon as they walk in the door at the end of the day? If this sounds familiar, it’s because it’s so common that it actually has a name — after-school restraint collapse — as coined by parent educator Andrea Loewen Nair. Â
This is an issue that I often run into with the parents I work with. Kids that struggle with BIG feelings generally have to w...
With kids going back to school, do you wonder what mood they’re going to come home in at the end of the day and nervous about what you’re going to get?
When kids are little, most parents dread the “witching” hour that often happened later in the day. As parents, we often want to wind down as the day goes on — but late afternoon to early evening is often when children are extra sensitive and fussy and parents need to be ...
Is your child excited about the upcoming school year, are they a bundle of nerves, or are they dreading going back to school?  If you have a child entering a new stage at school or a first-time college-bound teen they are likely experiencing a mix of all three! Your child could be excited to see friends, but nervous about a new teacher, new sport or activities, or having schoolwork and homework again.
As parents, we in...
Do you have a child that’s nervous about going back to school?  Even when kids are excited, each year is new and unknown which can bring up back to school jitters and worries for many kids. As parents, how we handle our child being nervous can have a major impact so it’s something that I coach and teach around often this time of year.
I invite you to take a minute and think about your typical response when your child is...
Do you have a child that struggles when they’re faced with new situations? Kids that struggle with big emotions also tend to struggle when dealing with new situations, and they can get testy and anxious as they get closer to going back to school. Â
Although it may seem like going back to school is a way out, if you have a child that struggles with change I highly recommend that you start preparing them now.
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Do you have a child that struggles with new situations or change? While some kids embrace new situations and look forward to them with excitement, others can resist change, and get testy and anxious as upcoming changes get closer. Every child is wired differently, and it’s not uncommon to have one child breeze through new situations while the other struggles. Â
I say this from personal experience as I have one of each m...